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| What is ABUSE? |
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| Who are the VICTIMS? |
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There are many kinds of abuse and we’ll discuss each one. Some are
obvious and we see it every day or at least hear about it on the eleven
o’clock news. Others may be subtle. And some may even surprise
you because you were always taught to accept them as normal. That
is the core of all abuse - we are taught to accept it as normal. Those
patterns are programmed into us and permeate every relationship we have
our entire life. |
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We are so programmed to it that we deal with a judicial system that allows
the worst abusers to go free and then we wonder why the victims are later
dead or why a woman would kill her husband for no apparent reason.
There is always a hue and cry raised at the time of these incidents.
But that is all we see done - most of the time. Very little
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There are some beacons of light in this endless morass we call justice
for all. Unfortunately, there has still been no light seen at the
end of any tunnel. If a stranger were verbally, emotionally, or physically
attacked someone would go to jail. However, we don’t give our victims,
be they children, spouses, parents or significant others, the same freedom
or protection under the law that was promised over two hundred years ago.
One factor does remain equal, however. Abuse cuts across race, religion
and socio-economic status. It invades every level of our society.
Do you just accept this or do you finally break the chains that bind…becoming
a new you. |
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A victim CAN stop being a victim, or you can just exchange abusers or the
abuse. Nothing changes unless you change. Each
of us has the power within to regain and use our own personal power to
be treated the way you deserve. It sounds easy…it’s not. It’s
one of the most difficult decisions you will ever make in your life.
The decision to regain control over YOUR life and find out who you really
are is the most difficult road you will ever travel. You deserve
a better life, but you must truly know you deserve it before you
can find it. It is your choice - VICTIM or VICTOR. |
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I believe this book will start you on the road to the life you can have.
The life you deserve. Help you begin to discover your own self-worth. But
one book isn’t the answer. It is what YOU do with it. Only
YOU can change your life. No one can rescue you - YOU MUST RESCUE
YOURSELF. Others may help, but YOU must do the work.
Although I refer to women as the victims in this book, there are also men
in the same situation. However, since the vast majority are women,
I will use that convention. |
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